It's So Easy...

...to fall in love

A few months ago, I had a conversation with a friend. She told me about a guy she had just started talking to, how he was already confessing romantic feelings for her and how she didn’t understand it.
“I didn’t do anything to encourage him,” she said. “Why does he even like me? I’m not even trying.”
And without much thought, I responded, “Why not?”

Lately, I’ve noticed, as I’m sure you have, that Olivia Dean is taking the world by storm. Her music feels like sunlight; in a world of fleeting love, her songs make you want to settle down and build a home. Her lyrics are thoughtful and her melodies tender and alive. Whenever one of her songs comes on, I find myself swaying instinctively, I want to dance, but in my home, after a glass of red wine, and in the arms of my one true love. Just last week, I caught myself singing along, and as I settled into the lyrics of So Easy (to Fall in Love), I began to think about the words and dissect them, if you will.

The song started to sound less like a love song to a man and more like a love song to herself. She sang about how she could make it easy to fall in love with her. With the way she did her hair, the way she made him laugh, the confidence in her being. It was a declaration of worth, not a plea for attention.

“I’m the perfect mix of Saturday night and the rest of your life.”

I listened to it over and over, and the conversation with my friend came back to me.
Why wouldn’t he fall in love with you?
Look at yourself. Look at the miracle that is you, the beauty, the completeness, the brilliance that follows you into every room. You do not have to try to be worthy of love. You simply are.
You deserve every jaw drop, every head turn, every love confession, not because you earned it, but because you exist. Because you are.

I once wrote something after looking at a friend for a bit too long. Sometimes I catch something divine in a person: the curve of a smile, the movement of lips as they speak, the way their eyes widen when they’re fascinated by something. It could be anything, really, but it grips me until I can hardly look away. On that day, while looking at that particular friend, I wrote something I’ve mostly forgotten except for the last line:
“I think I’ve seen God.”

And though beauty is subjective, as we love to say, I’ve grown weary of hearing people — myself included— question why someone might love them, why we feel we must earn affection or prove ourselves worthy of being adored. I want to be wanted simply because I am.

About two years ago, during one of those deeply personal Bible study sessions that you just want to keep going without an end, I asked God, “Why ‘I AM’?” And He answered, “Because I AM. I am whatever I will be. I become whatever I am needed to be. I take the place of everything you lack, and I am everything you need.”

“God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM”; and He said, “You shall say this to the Israelites, ‘I AM has sent me to you.’ ””

Exodus‬ ‭3‬:‭14‬ ‭AMP

So, taking a page from God’s very big book, not to claim to be Him or to bear His name, I think I could simply be.
Be everything that draws you in.
Be everything that makes you want more.
Be the intrigue, the softness, the wonder.
I could make it easy to fall in love and not because I toiled for it, not because I tried too hard, but simply because I am.

This sat in my drafts for a week because I had a test to prepare for and after my test I watched the new Frankenstein movie and while I loved it, I didn’t think much of the “I am obscene to you, but to myself, I simply am” line until I came back to do final touches and editing and I can’t help but think of how cool and coincidental it is.

Thank you for reading and supporting what I do here. I’m grateful in ways you might never know. See you in another week!

Also, leave a comment and tell me what you think about this one. I’m genuinely curious. In what ways do you think you could make it easy for someone to fall in love with you? Also, have you listened to Olivia Dean’s album? I’m listening right now and I must say, she does make it easy to fall in love.